Dating Forums

[andrew25]

How would you cope with your gf having a totally conflicting point of view about life as compared to you?

Can you give up some of your attitudes and make the relationship harmonious or would you just constantly quarrel with them. That's what seems to be happening to me right now (quarrel)

[Josy]

Problem is, what is that conflict about ?

If you want children and she does not want them at all, you will sooner or later face the fact that you have to quit the relationship or quit your dream.

So if your conflict with her is like that you have to make your choices before it is to late.

Is it only something like she is democrat voting and your are republic voting, forget your quarrel about it.

[tongyun]

First of all, do you two ever plan on getting married or are you just happy being boyfriend and girlfriend? If you plan on getting married, then you have to decide if the issue is big enough to just ignore or find some way to compromise. If compromise won't work, then the marriage is dead even before it starts. If you are just happy being bf/gf, then you can either work out the differences or move on to someone else.

[themermaid]

You can have conflicting views and still lead a normal, quarrel-free life. It is entirely up to you...about how to manage your relationship. I have seen atheists married to religious people, and they got along quite well. However, certain conflicts cannot be resolved. And if you feel that your needs are not being met owing to your differences in opinion, you had better break up amicably instead of spending the rest of your lives at war with each other.

[lavern]

Would you believe in the saying that opposites attract? Well, I think that’s what’s happening in your relationship. No I’m not a psychic or whatever you may think about me. It’s just my opinion. Let’s just understand each other that we all have our differences. I think, we just have to respect the things each one of us considers would be the right thing. Conflict-that’s the spice of life! We should always weigh things before coming out into a decision we’ll regret our entire life.

[Josy]

If that conflict your are writing about really does not matter to you on a long term, ignore it and so not think about changing anything.

If you can not handle that conflict because it is daily going on your nerves resolve the problem and find your way through it.