Online Dating and Blogging

Some people think that blogging is helping to ease the negative stigma that surrounds online dating.  Blogging exploded in 2004 where, seemingly overnight it went from something only a few “weirdos” did to everyone and their pets deciding that having a personal website would be “like, the awesomest thing ever!”  Suddenly bloggers were having blogger meet ups and meeting friends via the internet didn’t seem quite so weird.  Thankfully, online dating and finding dates via sites like ours is slowly gaining the same acceptance.

This does not mean, however, that the online dating and blogging should mix.

Here’s the thing.  I’m a blogger and I know how tempting it is to share every detail of my life with my readers.  What I have to constantly remind myself is that my stories are not always my own.  I’m sure my fiancé wouldn’t be very happy with me if I shared details about his family online.  I’m sure my friends wouldn’t like their business to be aired on my site.  There is a fine line from sharing my own life and being an online gossip.

This is something that many online daters seem to forget.  How often have you made a match via a site like CupidMarket, gone on what you thought was a great date and then gone home and found your entire date dissected on the person’s blog?  Have you ever talked trash about a date that turned out to be a bad idea on your blog?  Thanks to Google, your date could probably find your blog in about three clicks and read every last scathing word.

It is also a good idea to let potential dates know that you have a blog.  You don’t want your date to find out on his/her own and then get mad that you weren’t honest about your other online exploits!

Finally, remember that your blog is easy to find—especially if someone is skilled at online searches (which most online daters are).  It is possible that your potential CupidMarket date will find your blog before your first date.  If you go through the entire date without mentioning the site, he/she might wonder why you’re being so secretive.  They might not open up out of fear that they will end up as blog fodder later on.

Blogging is a double edged sword.  It has helped online dating quite a lot, but it can be quite a hindrance to the online daters.  Be careful and always err on the side of caution.  But don’t forget to have fun as well!