Free Online Dating - You’ve Found Her, But When Should a Woman Pay for a Date?

So you’ve found someone on our free online dating site, and have planned a date. But who will do the paying on this date?

For many years, it was always up to the man to pay for a date. Only once in a great while on special occasions did you see a woman paying for an entire date. That has changed a lot over the last several years mostly due to the economic conditions as well as changes in salaries. Even now, though men still do the paying most of the time, women are allowed to pitch in financially. There are occasions when it is not only appropriate, but expected, that a woman should pay for a date. These include:

When she does the asking: Women have taken the bull by the horns in recent years and have started asking men out rather than waiting for them to make the first move. This probably comes from the various feminist movements where it’s finally considered to be okay for a woman to ask out a man. However, when she does do the asking, she should also expect to do the paying. It’s only fair.

If she has more money: It’s clear that women are in high powered careers these days that pay a lot of money. Attorneys, doctors, and heads of companies all make quite a bit of money and can well afford to pay for dates. The only problem with this is that men sometimes get sensitive about letting a woman pay all the time. In these cases, you may want to offer to go Dutch where you pay for your half. You can also down grade your dates to something more affordable to the man’s budget.

Special occasion dates: If it’s his birthday or something along those lines, it’s perfectly acceptable for the woman to arrange and pay for a date. This can also even include such things as anniversary or Valentine’s Day surprises. If she does the planning, she is allowed to do the paying.

It’s something the woman really wants to do: If the date consists of doing something that the woman loves and the man despises, such as attending the opera or ballet, for example, it’s completely reasonable for her to pay for the evening. If dinner is included, however, the man can offer to foot the bill for that but it’s certainly not required.

Something he really loves is coming to town: Suppose a favorite band of the man’s is coming close by for a concert, or that truck pulling event is coming to town. If the woman wants to surprise her man with tickets to something like this, it shouldn’t bother anyone if she pays for the entire evening.

There may be more occasions when it’s totally appropriate for women to pay for dates but these are some that are pretty evident. Just be careful not to hurt your man’s feelings with all of your financial “treats,” or he may start avoiding dates with you. The last thing you want to do is make him feel inadequate. So keep this in mind when you start racing ahead to pay for things when you’re out on a date.